The first day of preschool, or even the first day in a new classroom, can bring a mix of excitement and anxiety for both children and parents. While starting preschool is an important milestone filled with new friendships, learning experiences, and opportunities to explore, change can sometimes feel overwhelming for little ones.
At Vivero International Preschool, we understand that every child’s journey is unique. Rooted in the Reggio Emilia approach to early childhood education, we believe that children need time, trust, and a nurturing environment to feel secure as they begin their preschool journey.
Many preschoolers are excited about becoming “big” and going to school, but the final goodbye at drop-off can often be challenging. Preschool parking lots are filled with emotional goodbyes because preschool separation anxiety is a common experience for many children and families.
It is completely natural for children to feel anxious when separating from their parents. Separation anxiety in preschoolers is a normal part of child development. It can begin during infancy, reappear during periods of change, and continue through the preschool years. Some children may adjust well initially and experience preschool transition anxiety a few weeks into the school year.
Crying, tantrums, clinginess, or difficulty separating during drop-off are common signs that a child is finding the transition challenging. At Vivero, our educators recognise these emotions and focus on building a sense of belonging, trust, and emotional security for every child.
1. Awareness and Good Preparation
Separation anxiety is a healthy and protective emotion. It is your child’s way of expressing, “You are my safe place, and I need time to build trust and confidence with new caregivers.”
Understanding that preschool separation anxiety is a normal part of growing up is the first step towards helping your child. Preparing your child emotionally and creating a positive association with school can make the transition feel exciting rather than overwhelming.
At Vivero, the settling-in period is thoughtfully planned to support each child’s emotional well-being. Our teachers take time to understand each child’s comfort level, interests, and individual needs.
2. Address Parental Concerns and Build Confidence
It is perfectly normal for parents to feel anxious about their child starting preschool. Trusting a new teacher, classroom, and environment can take time.
At Vivero, we believe in parents as partners. Children often pick up on parental emotions, and when parents feel confident and reassured, children are more likely to feel safe and comfortable.
A positive relationship between parents and educators creates a strong foundation for a child’s preschool experience.
3. Start with a Warm-Up Before Preschool Begins
One of the best tips for preparing your child for preschool is helping them become familiar with the environment before the first day.
Visiting the school, exploring the surroundings, meeting educators, and talking positively about preschool can help children develop familiarity and confidence.
At Vivero, our thoughtfully designed learning spaces support children in feeling welcomed and connected. Inspired by the Reggio Emilia philosophy, our environment acts as the third teacher, encouraging exploration, curiosity, and comfort.
4. Create a Special Goodbye Ritual
A predictable goodbye routine can make preschool drop-off easier for children. A familiar ritual gives children a sense of comfort and control.
You can create your own special goodbye moment:
A special handshake
A favourite hug
A secret wave
A high-five before saying goodbye
A consistent goodbye ritual helps children understand that separation is temporary and that parents always return.
5. Do Not Slip Away Without Saying Goodbye
While it may feel easier to leave when your child is distracted, quietly walking away can increase anxiety. Your child may begin worrying that you might disappear without warning.
Always let your child know when you are leaving. A calm and confident goodbye helps build trust and strengthens their relationship with their educators.
At Vivero, our teachers as facilitators provide reassurance and support, helping children gradually develop independence and confidence.
6. Acknowledge Your Child’s Feelings
When children cry at preschool drop-off, it is important to acknowledge their emotions.
You can say:
“I know you miss me. It is okay to feel sad. Your teacher will take care of you, and I will come back after school.”
At Vivero, we encourage children to express their feelings and believe that emotional well-being is an essential part of early childhood learning.
7. Be Mindful of Your Body Language
Children often understand emotions through body language. Even if you feel emotional during drop-off, try to maintain a calm expression, smile, and show confidence.
A cheerful goodbye communicates: “You are safe, and this is a happy place.”
8. Establish a Consistent Routine
Children thrive when they have predictable routines. A calm morning routine can make the preschool transition smoother.
Some helpful tips:
Ensure your child gets enough sleep
Prepare bags, clothes, and snacks the night before
Keep mornings relaxed and unhurried
Maintain regular meal and bedtime routines
A predictable routine helps children feel secure and prepared for their day at preschool.
9. Understand the School’s Settling-In Period
Every child takes their own time to adjust to preschool. A well-planned preschool settling-in period allows children to gradually become comfortable in their new environment.
At Vivero, the settling-in process is designed around the child’s emotional needs, ensuring that children feel valued, respected, and supported as they begin their learning journey.
10. Build a Strong Partnership Between Parents and Educators
A positive relationship between parents and teachers plays an important role in helping children adjust to preschool.
At Vivero, we believe that collaboration between families and educators creates the best learning experiences for children. Open communication, trust, and partnership help children feel secure both at home and in school.
Helping Your Child Build Confidence Beyond the First Goodbye
The preschool years lay the foundation for lifelong learning, independence, friendships, and curiosity. While the first few days of preschool may feel emotional, children gradually learn that school is a safe and exciting place.
At Vivero International Preschool, every child is encouraged to explore, express, and grow in a nurturing environment. With patience, consistency, and support from parents and educators, children overcome separation anxiety and begin their preschool journey with confidence, curiosity, and joy.
